{"id":116,"date":"2020-05-24T19:56:24","date_gmt":"2020-05-24T19:56:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.elizabethroycollection.com\/blog\/?p=116"},"modified":"2020-05-24T21:45:42","modified_gmt":"2020-05-24T21:45:42","slug":"your-voice-has-power","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.elizabethroycollection.com\/blog\/2020\/05\/24\/your-voice-has-power\/","title":{"rendered":"Your Voice Has Power"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Keep it in the family. How many times did you hear “Keep it to yourself, no one needs to know what happened in the family”?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So much happens within the family behind closed doors. Understandable that certain topics must remain confidential, but what happens when there is (physical, verbal, psychological, or sexual) abuse? What good does it do to keep it to ourselves simply because we want to avoid the criticism and judgement of others. I am not a psychologist or professional counselor, but I do know that any kind of abuse is traumatic and can develop feelings of distress, fear, insecurities and helplessness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

We often hear about abuse happening in the family and most times a close relative is responsible. The easiest way for the family to deal with the shame is to keep it in the dark. “Don’t talk about, don’t tell anyone, you must have provoked it, this is going to destroy our family and just stay away from him\/her.” These are their solutions to deal with it and in some cases, they continue to live their lives like nothing happened. The abuser is allowed to come around the family, but the survivor is left feeling alone without family support, guilty, isolated, depressed, and dealing with the trauma throughout sleepless nights. Sometimes you question which one hurts more- the abuse or feeling like you were not supported by your own family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In some instances the trauma leaves you feeling numbed, and affects your ability to building genuine relationships because you feel you can’t trust anyone. Other times the survivor wants to feel included and trusts too easily until they realize it is too late. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Although you may be feeling alone and isolated, remember that you are not alone. Many have suffered similar abuse and have used their pain to help others. SPEAK UP! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Your voice has power even when you whisper.”<\/p>Elizabeth Roy <\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

It is upsetting to see how abuse has affected your life, but keep comfort knowing you have dealt to cope with the pain with so much inner strength. This same strength will help you to heal. You speaking up will also give courage to others to speak up too. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are not ready to speak to your family about it, you can still begin to heal by finding outside help. Search community help centers, therapist, crisis lines for women, and or find a person you can trust to help you navigate through it all even if is moral support. You are not alone!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am here if you need me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1ntas veces escuchaste “Gu\u00e1rdalo para ti mismo, nadie necesita saber lo que pas\u00f3 en la familia”? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tanto sucede dentro de la familia a puerta cerrada. Es comprensible que ciertos temas deben permanecer confidenciales, pero \u00bfqu\u00e9 sucede cuando hay abuso (f\u00edsico, verbal, psicol\u00f3gico o sexual)? \u00bfDe qu\u00e9 sirve mantenerlo para nosotros simplemente porque queremos evitar la cr\u00edtica de los dem\u00e1s? No soy psic\u00f3logo ni consejero profesional, pero s\u00ed s\u00e9 que cualquier tipo de abuso es traum\u00e1tico y puede desarrollar sentimientos de angustia, miedo, inseguridad e impotencia. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A menudo escuchamos sobre el abuso que ocurre en la familia y la mayor\u00eda de las veces un pariente cercano es responsable. La forma m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil para la familia de lidiar con la verg\u00fcenza es mantenerla en la oscuridad. “No hables, no le digas a nadie, debes haberlo provocado, esto va a destruir a nuestra familia y mantente alejado de \u00e9l \/ ella”. Estas son sus soluciones para enfrentarlo y en algunos casos, contin\u00faan viviendo sus vidas como si nada hubiera pasado. Al abusador(a) se le permite acercarse a la familia, pero el sobreviviente se siente solo(a) sin el apoyo familiar, culpable, aislado(a), deprimido(a) y lidiando con el trauma durante las noches de insomnio. A veces te preguntas cu\u00e1l te duele m\u00e1s: el abuso o la sensaci\u00f3n de que tu familia no te apoy\u00f3. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

En algunos casos, el trauma te deja aturdido(a) y afecta tu capacidad para construir relaciones genuinas porque sientes que no puedes confiar en nadie. Otras veces, el sobreviviente quiere sentirse incluido y conf\u00eda demasiado f\u00e1cilmente hasta que se da cuenta de que es demasiado tarde. Aunque puede sentirse solo(a)y aislado(a), recuerde que no est\u00e1s solo(a). Muchos han sufrido abusos similares y han usado su dolor para ayudar a otros. \u00a1HABLA EN VOS ALTA! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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“Tu voz tiene poder incluso cuando susurras”.<\/p>Elizabeth Roy<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n


Es inevitable no sentir frustraci\u00f3n al ver c\u00f3mo el abuso ha afectado tu vida, pero consu\u00e9late sabiendo que has lidiado con el dolor con tanta fuerza interior. Esta misma fuerza te ayudar\u00e1 a sanar. Al contar tu experiencia tambi\u00e9n dar\u00e1s valor a los dem\u00e1s para contar la suya tambi\u00e9n. Si no est\u00e1s listo(a) para hablar con tu familia al respecto, a\u00fan puedes comenzar a sanar buscando ayuda externa. Busca centros de ayuda comunitarios, terapeutas, l\u00edneas de crisis para mujeres, o encuentra a una persona de confianza para que te ayude con apoyo moral. \u00a1No estas solo!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Si me necesitas, aqui estoy.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Keep it in the family. How many times did you hear “Keep it to yourself, no one needs to know what happened in the family”? So much happens within the family behind closed doors. Understandable that certain topics must remain confidential, but what happens when there is (physical, verbal, psychological, or sexual) abuse? What good does it do to keep it to ourselves simply because we want to avoid the criticism and judgement of others. I am not a psychologist or professional counselor, but I do know that any kind of abuse is traumatic and can develop feelings of distress, fear, insecurities and helplessness. We often hear about abuse happening in the family and most times a close relative is responsible. The easiest way for the family to deal with the shame is to keep it in the dark. “Don’t talk about, don’t tell anyone, you must have provoked it, this is going to destroy our family and just stay away from him\/her.” These are their solutions to deal with it and in some cases, they continue to live their lives like nothing happened. The abuser is allowed to come around the family, but the survivor is left feeling alone without family support, guilty, isolated, depressed, and dealing with the trauma throughout sleepless nights. Sometimes you question which one hurts more- the abuse or feeling like you were not supported by your own family. In some instances the trauma leaves you feeling numbed, and affects your ability to building genuine relationships because you feel you can’t trust anyone. Other times the survivor wants to feel included and trusts too easily until they realize it is too late. Although you may be feeling alone and isolated, remember that you are not alone. Many have suffered similar abuse and have used their pain to help others. SPEAK UP! “Your voice has power even when you whisper.” Elizabeth Roy It is upsetting to see how abuse has affected your life, but keep comfort knowing you have dealt to cope with the pain with so much inner strength. This same strength will help you to heal. You speaking up will also give courage to others to speak up too. If you are not ready to speak to your family about it, you can still begin to heal by finding outside help. Search community help centers, therapist, crisis lines for women, and or find a person you can trust to help you navigate through it all even if is moral support. You are not alone! I am here if you need me.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":true,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[23,20,22,19,24,18,21,25],"class_list":["post-116","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-stories","tag-family-secrets","tag-physical-abuse","tag-psychological-abuse","tag-sexual-abuse","tag-speakup","tag-survivor","tag-verbal-abuse","tag-your-voice-has-power"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.elizabethroycollection.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/116","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.elizabethroycollection.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.elizabethroycollection.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.elizabethroycollection.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.elizabethroycollection.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=116"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/www.elizabethroycollection.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/116\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":124,"href":"https:\/\/www.elizabethroycollection.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/116\/revisions\/124"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.elizabethroycollection.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=116"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.elizabethroycollection.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=116"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.elizabethroycollection.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=116"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}